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Post by PurplySparkleyJoey on Jul 17, 2002 0:08:09 GMT -5
Hello!! Its lovely to meet you  Very happy to have you with us!! I read your post above and thought i would start you a new thred. Its really really hard for every one when then first question there sexuality. All sorts of stuff comes in to your head and you dont know if its wrong or right and soooo on! But we have all been there!! The best thing you can do is sit tight! Go out to gay clubs or pubs or groups and so on if you can. Mett people you can trust and gain friends with and just see how you feel. Mix with people who might understand what your going though or who might be able to help you out a bit? Dont worry or get scared about whats going on, its all natrual and totaly normal! See how you feel around women, see if you can find some one you click with and take one step at a time. You have a life time a head of you to work out who you want as a partner so make the most of it while you can!! If you have ANY questions, just ask, we all know how hard it is to stay sane!! Every one here is an expert on that and im sure they will all be willing to help you out!! Lots of love to you, and a warm welcome too!! Jo xx |
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Post by Rachel on Jul 22, 2002 16:40:05 GMT -5
hi Jo this is Lustful with a new name i lost my password to the last one! thank-you very much for your reply the thing is i don't thik i would feel comfortable going to a gay club alone i would a gay friend with me and i don't have one! i want to at least kiss a girl and find out if its what i want! :-(
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Post by PurplySparkleyJoey on Jul 31, 2002 18:03:47 GMT -5
I can understand you wanting to do that .. take a friend, its not really a good idea to go clubbing alone. Have you thought about putting an add in DIVA? Do dismiss the idea straight away, i dont mean try and find a girlfriend ... put an add in asking for people in your area to E mail you, that your looking to make friends and meet more gay people. Just an idea, you could do the same sort of thing on the internet too... obviously you have to get to know people before you should meet them, but im quite sure people in DIVA are not out to hurt any one!
Well.. let me know what you think chuck, and if there is anything i can do to help just let me know!
p.s .. where do you live chuck? I might know some people there
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Post by Rachel on Aug 11, 2002 20:23:26 GMT -5
i live in Northern Ireland so i find it very hard to find anything adaptable to me! e.g. clubs and ppl my age to start with! ppl are so hard on ppl who r gay and that scares me my parents wouldn't accept it anyway and i wouldn't have anywhere to turn to!
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Post by gem on Aug 20, 2002 8:59:00 GMT -5
hello,
we all find it difficult, you're not alone! are there any womens cgroups or anything???
gemma
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Post by Rachel on Aug 20, 2002 12:41:01 GMT -5
The hardest part for me is anyone finding out i am even confused if anyone knew i would be in for a very rough time! risking going to a group that i could talk about it my life would be in ruins a lot of my mates r homophobic anyway it doesn't matter i'll just pretend im normal!
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Post by PurplySparkleyJoey on Aug 23, 2002 16:13:22 GMT -5
Hiya Rachel, have you thought about calling a help line? I dont know of one where you are off the top of my head but im sure if you have a look about on the internet you would be able to find something that might be of use to you?
I'l have a look about my self see if i can find anything that might be able to help you out!
Jo xx
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Post by Kathy on Aug 23, 2002 23:55:08 GMT -5
Hey Rachel, sorry you're having such a hard time. I haven't come out to my parents cause I feel like they wouldn't accept it too, and since I depend on them to help me out finacially here and there, I'm worried I'd have nowhere to turn without them. I think it's extra hard when you're young, sick, or disabled and having to depend on family to take care of you. I don't think it makes you abnormal to be confused about all this. It's all just part of the process I'm afraid. |
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Post by PurplySparkleyJoey on Aug 25, 2002 10:25:15 GMT -5
Hello popet, how are you feeling at the moment? Well i hope!!
I think what Kathy said is sad but true ... every onw disabled or not goes though the same feelings and problems, we all face the same dilemers too. Who do we tell, when do we tell? Are you really gay, is it a fase? ... but they all get answered in the end.
Keep talking to us, as any questions you need, we will always help you out where we can.
Other than that i would sugest you sit tight untill you are sure of what you want out of life.
Huge supportive hugs to you Rachel,
Love always,
Jo xx
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Post by Rachel on Aug 26, 2002 14:36:31 GMT -5
thanx u guys u know i feel so much better now i know i have all u lot to support me! i just really need a partner and a shoulder to cry on i know u wud all lend one but it isn't the same as a real cuddle
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