Post by cobryn on Jun 29, 2004 16:30:27 GMT -5
Heyas. I'm a bisexual 18 year old from the North East with a problem (of course, why else do teenagers actually post in the relationships section?) But that's besides the point.
I've been with this girl for 9 months now. I adore her, and the relationship has porgressed nicely up until now. I've been infatuated before, but this is the first person I ever thought I could spend my life with. It was because of her that I was finally able to come out to my mother, and somehow survived the few months when we weren't even on speaking terms (she's a die hard christian you see.) And now, my mother and I get along pretty well, but my relationship with Gina has started to suffer. Last week, I went over to her house after I got out of work. She has to babysit her younger sister, so I would often stop by and we'd all play uno, go swimming, or get ice cream. We weren't expecting her mum home until around 5:30, so we all laid down for a nap. When her mum got home early, she flipped. Gina ushered me out of the house. The next day when we were supposed to hang out, Gina had left for a friends house and stayed there for a few days.
Things went downhill from there. I'm not allowed to call her, so the only time I get to talk to her is online. Since then, I heard from a mutual friend that Gina was angry the majority of the past week, that she had contemplated breaking up with me, and that she doesn't know if she wants to be committed to one person, etc. etc. We had gone to a movie with some friends, at which point I tried to stay away from her, thinking she needed some space. After meeting at a coffee house afterwards, she claimed she was just angry before, and became upset that I was avoiding her.
We patched things up, and I thought it was going well, until she didn't come to my birthday party. She waited 4 hours before calling to say she couldn't make it, because she was sleeping over at a friends house. The next day, when we had scheduled to go to a convention, she was quite the majority of the time. It wasn't until the next day when I asked her why she was out of it that she told me she had been having heart problems at the time, such as troubled breathing and faintness (she has previously had open heart surgery.) While I understand she didn't want me to baby her or insist on leaving, I felt very put out that she didn't tell me about it. Since then, I have only exchanged emails with her. I will be seeing her tommorrow night, but I'm not entirely sure what either of us wants anymore. I love her, but I'm not sure if the feeling is mutual anymore. It's possible that she just wants to lay low for a while, until her mom recovers as she says, but I'm afraid that she perhaps is letting her mothers feelings get to her, to the point where she'll break up with me. In comparison, I stayed with her throughout my mom's acceptance, even though it involved some lying, sneaking around, and downright verbal abuse, and I feel like she's not putting much effort into the relationship. Any suggestions?
I've been with this girl for 9 months now. I adore her, and the relationship has porgressed nicely up until now. I've been infatuated before, but this is the first person I ever thought I could spend my life with. It was because of her that I was finally able to come out to my mother, and somehow survived the few months when we weren't even on speaking terms (she's a die hard christian you see.) And now, my mother and I get along pretty well, but my relationship with Gina has started to suffer. Last week, I went over to her house after I got out of work. She has to babysit her younger sister, so I would often stop by and we'd all play uno, go swimming, or get ice cream. We weren't expecting her mum home until around 5:30, so we all laid down for a nap. When her mum got home early, she flipped. Gina ushered me out of the house. The next day when we were supposed to hang out, Gina had left for a friends house and stayed there for a few days.
Things went downhill from there. I'm not allowed to call her, so the only time I get to talk to her is online. Since then, I heard from a mutual friend that Gina was angry the majority of the past week, that she had contemplated breaking up with me, and that she doesn't know if she wants to be committed to one person, etc. etc. We had gone to a movie with some friends, at which point I tried to stay away from her, thinking she needed some space. After meeting at a coffee house afterwards, she claimed she was just angry before, and became upset that I was avoiding her.
We patched things up, and I thought it was going well, until she didn't come to my birthday party. She waited 4 hours before calling to say she couldn't make it, because she was sleeping over at a friends house. The next day, when we had scheduled to go to a convention, she was quite the majority of the time. It wasn't until the next day when I asked her why she was out of it that she told me she had been having heart problems at the time, such as troubled breathing and faintness (she has previously had open heart surgery.) While I understand she didn't want me to baby her or insist on leaving, I felt very put out that she didn't tell me about it. Since then, I have only exchanged emails with her. I will be seeing her tommorrow night, but I'm not entirely sure what either of us wants anymore. I love her, but I'm not sure if the feeling is mutual anymore. It's possible that she just wants to lay low for a while, until her mom recovers as she says, but I'm afraid that she perhaps is letting her mothers feelings get to her, to the point where she'll break up with me. In comparison, I stayed with her throughout my mom's acceptance, even though it involved some lying, sneaking around, and downright verbal abuse, and I feel like she's not putting much effort into the relationship. Any suggestions?